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Macky
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Location: USA
Registered: November 2008
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arich posted an interesting reply in the "first love first contact" thread. It got me thinking about different types of relationship possibilities. I've been in 2 different types.
The first was with a gay guy. It lasted for 10 years. We had a close relationship, but it was not exclusive, and although I awoke in his bed many a morning, we never moved in together. I liked him a whole lot and wanted to move in together and make it exclusive, but that just wasn't his thing so we fell apart. But the time I spent in that relationship made me feel that this is a bona fide workable type of relationship for some guys.
My second type of relationship is with a hetero lady. This has the exclusivitivity and closeness that I wanted. And the melding of two lives that comes with it is really cool. When I opened up to her about my being gay, the closeness started growing even more rapidly. This is totally different from my previous relationship where closeness stopped at a certain point. An exclusive committed relationship is like giving your life away to a person who gives their live away too. You really do not have your own life anymore and it becomes a matter of we rather than a matter of I.
I find that this is the type of relationship I have always craved. But committed exclusivity wasn't for my guy mentioned in the previous paragraph and it isn't for arich per the quotation below.
arich said;
"Long term? Yeah so to speak, thing is by the time I reached young adulthood I was of the mind that it was pointless for people with a more or less same sex orientation to be a part of caricature of a hetero relationship. I believed then, as I do now, we could and maybe should be part of something much more dynamic, not promiscuous mind you for I have felt the sting of that way of life, but a loving relationship amongst a group is I think quiet possible and maybe even more appropriate for those that have no intent to procreate. As we can see even amongst heteros long term monogamous relationships are becoming the exception rather than the rule. So I wonder as a at this concept of having only one loved one for a life time."
Having enjoyed an open relationship, what arich says seems quite valid to me.
So as I see it we have 3 relationship types so far
1. open
2. committed
3. dynamic
I guess the preferred type is a matter of personal taste.
Can you think of more possibilities?
Which type of relationship sounds best to you?
Macky
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
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Types of relationships for gays
By: Macky on Thu, 15 October 2009 00:47 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: acam on Thu, 15 October 2009 11:52 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: Macky on Thu, 15 October 2009 15:36 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: arich on Thu, 15 October 2009 14:28 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: Macky on Thu, 15 October 2009 15:42 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: arich on Thu, 15 October 2009 18:05 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: acam on Thu, 15 October 2009 16:26 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: arich on Thu, 15 October 2009 18:26 |
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Re: Types of relationships for gays
By: acam on Thu, 15 October 2009 19:03 |
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unclassifiable
By: timmy on Thu, 15 October 2009 21:25 |
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Re: unclassifiable
By: Macky on Thu, 15 October 2009 21:46 |
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Re: unclassifiable
By: timmy on Thu, 15 October 2009 22:15 |
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Exclusive partnership
By: acam on Fri, 16 October 2009 10:13 |
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Re: unclassifiable
By: saben on Fri, 16 October 2009 07:14 |
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Re: unclassifiable
By: Macky on Fri, 16 October 2009 14:31 |
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Re: unclassifiable
By: ray2x on Wed, 21 October 2009 05:45 |
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