|
timmy
|
 |
Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13828
|
|
|
I'd like us to take a step back. I'm gaining ideas for site improvement, yes, and I'm seeing a sense of community, too. But I'm not sure I like all that I am seeing.
I like very much the free exchange of views, even though the tone is not always what I would wish. And that is part of my request. That has, please, to improve.
We have a new member with strongly held views, some of which I think fit here and some don't. But I don't know him, despite contributing to his blog, and despite chatting to him. I know of him. I'm sure I can research his professional credentials, and I know as we all can know, his phone number. But he is not, so far, a full part of whatever I mean when I refer to 'our family' here.
I'd like him to be. I appreciate his ability to create discussions, though I do not by amy means always appreciate the tone created.
I know his inner demons, whatever they be, are not because he's gay. He's an out and proud gay man. But I know he has some because, simply, we all do. So I'm asking him to come to us again, to walk into the door in a different manner, leaving his street shoes on the mat and pulling on a pair of comfy slippers, lighting his metaphorical pipe, resting his feet on a handy labrador and telling us a little more about who he is and what makes him tick, what angers him, what makes him happy, what are his hopes and fears for his life as it is now, what they were when he was 12, 13, 14. Not in a huge detail and not in a prying way, but by way of an introduction
NW and Shem are, I think, the most out gay men we have met until we met Brody. One cannot be more out than out, of course! Deeej is out, as am I, and he and I have learned to be out in our different ways. Brody and NW have both been beaten up for being gay, a place I never wish to go to but recognise is possible. Acam is not in, but not really out, yet. Nigel cannot be out yet for personal reasons. And I've missed people off the list. I bet you're relieved!!
I have a lot to learn about being out. And styles of out are different. I am out in my personal life, on my blog, on Facebook, in my old school alumni magazine, and on LinkedIn.
I'm starting to ramble. Damn.
So, to cut to the chase, Brody, we won't all like you, there isn't a hope in hell of that, but we would like to know you better.
And to the folk already in our family, I count on you to make him as welcome as he wishes to be.
[Updated on: Wed, 02 December 2009 18:38]
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
|
] 
A Place of Safety
Search
Help
Register
Login
Home
