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saben
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I'm a guild master in an online game I play online. I lead about 50-odd people into battle against monsters and dragons in a virtual world. But those 50-odd people also form a community of friends and acquaintances. The guild functions much like a chat room.
Recently, about a month ago, I met a 14 year old boy who joined my guild. He's taken something of a liking to me and I've ended up being something of a role model to him, helping him out with stuff in the game and giving him advice about real life problems he's been having.
The thing is, when we first started talking he was asking me about "girl problems" and I gave him relationship advice. But recently he's been talking less about girls and saying instead that he's been questioning his sexuality.
I've been open with him about being gay and when he's asked questions about why I thought I was gay, etc, I've told him openly and honestly. It was a few days after I mentioned my own teenage years that he came back to me and said "I've been wondering if maybe I'm like you, because sometimes I jack off thinking about other guys" and more recently "I was looking at gay porn the other night- you made me want to try it". I think he has something of a crush on me, too...
Is meeting me merely a catalyst for him thinking about his own sexuality? Or is the fact that I'm a role model that's been open about sexuality influenced or even "converted" him somewhat?
He's still unsure and he's still questioning and I tell him quite clearly that he doesn't need to make any decisions or be any one thing. He's allowed to try different stuff out and he's allowed to be unsure, etc. I'm trying NOT to influence him, but I think the fact that he looks up to me and the fact that I'm gay is in itself an influence.
I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. Kids and teens have so much straight propaganda thrown at them that a bit of balance on matters of sexuality is probably a good thing. And it's not like humans can avoid being "converted" to a particular way of thinking- everything around us influences us in some way. But it still feels kind of weird that someone who was asking me for girl advice in the first week of me meeting him is now he's talking about gay porn and that he wishes we could meet up and I could sleepover at his house (don't worry, he lives in a totally different city and he knows I'm in a relationship).
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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"Converting the children"
By: saben on Mon, 25 January 2010 04:14 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: Nigel on Mon, 25 January 2010 08:58 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: timmy on Mon, 25 January 2010 09:04 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: saben on Mon, 25 January 2010 16:54 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: Macky on Tue, 26 January 2010 03:09 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: timmy on Tue, 26 January 2010 08:49 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: saben on Tue, 26 January 2010 10:33 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: M on Tue, 26 January 2010 17:33 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: Macky on Wed, 27 January 2010 03:57 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: acam on Wed, 27 January 2010 12:41 |
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Re: "Converting the children"
By: saben on Wed, 27 January 2010 13:43 |
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Update:
By: saben on Wed, 27 January 2010 13:45 |
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