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What advice would you start to give...  [message #62868] Tue, 06 July 2010 09:09 Go to previous message
timmy

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An online friend has just sent me an autobiographical story. It presents the narrator and subject as a youth who is not likeable (though not dislikeable). And it is obvious that the author is not at peace with himself. He tells me that he does not, at a little older than my years, like himself much.

His history is of feeling that he has allowed himself to be used all his life and that has left him (my interpretation) feeling desolate at times. I've told him so far that those who allow themselves to be used are in a paradoxical position of power - they can withdraw the tacit consent and leave the user impotent.

He is nervous of posting here, though I think and hope he will read. He says that his insecurity can make him appear aggressive at times, this causing issues in forums.

I'd appreciate your thoughts, even pretty direct thoughts, expressed kindly, here.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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