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Enough is truly enough [message #63444]

Tue, 31 August 2010 15:50

timmy

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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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So what do I do, now? Do I set the board so that each and every post is moderated before it goes up? Or can I trust you to behave properly to each other?

You all have opinions. Great. What you lack is the ability to express yourselves in such a manner that other people will listen.

Do I worry that Brody has an acerbic pen? No, not at all. But I worry when he attacks someone personally. He has a right to an acerbic pen, but he has no right to call names, nor to attack. Nor has anyone any right to attack.

Do I worry about the use of words such as Brit or Nigger? No. I worry instead about the context where they are used. A word is just that. It's a word. And the fashion for using words changes. It's not bullying to use the word. It is the context that bullies. I don't like hearing words used in a derisory context, but I don't get hung up on the word, just in the behaviour surrounding its use in a poor or offensive context. The Spastics Society became 'Scope' after it got fed up with poor usage of the word 'spastic'. Now they get called 'Scopies'. The British armed forces were forbidden to call the Falkland Islanders 'Bennies' because of their similarity in choice of headgear to a soap opera character. They started to call them 'Stills' Because, whatever the rules say, they are still Bennies, that's why.

Do I worry about some of you not appearing to understand that we are still fighting a battle for equality? Yes, I do. I don't give a tuppenny damn if you join me in campaigning for equality or not. I do worry that understanding is not exhibited. I worry that the war is ignored, or swept under the carpet.

Do I need to take control of this forum back and run it with a rod of iron? You've all proved that we queers are as bad as the rest of humanity in our inability to understand differences and to work within a framework of decency.

Do I care if anyone apologises to anyone else? Half. The other half wants to turn a fire hose on this place and sweep the lot away and start again.

Someone said to me that I need to set the rules out. I have, Can't you see them?

Why don't you read them, and think for a while.

If you come back after reading and thinking, ONLY come back in the true spirit of the place. Otherwise please never come here again unless and until you can behave. Don't post a goodbye note, just go. No-one needs to see you depart because we genuinely do not care. So go silently.

If you have something to say about how others have behaved, do not bother to say it. No-one cares.

So what do I want to see here?

Peace.

And we can discuss difficult topics peacefully. Or we could, once.

And we can campaign competently and peacefully. And we can comment upon the news that we see, or report or create competently and peacefully. And we can express our horror and distaste for things peacefully.

If you can't do that, go away and annoy other people. If you can do that and WILL do it, then stay.

CAN I trust you?

[Updated on: Tue, 31 August 2010 18:47]

Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School

		Enough is truly enough By: timmy on Tue, 31 August 2010 15:50
		I am told I am over optimistic By: timmy on Wed, 01 September 2010 23:05
		This is an interesting post and an interesting thread. By: cossie on Thu, 02 September 2010 03:40
		I am still watching people create the forum they deserve By: timmy on Thu, 02 September 2010 06:59
		Re: This is an interesting post and an interesting thread. By: RichardG on Thu, 02 September 2010 11:15
		Re: Enough is truly enough By: acam on Thu, 02 September 2010 08:39
		Enough is truly enough By: timmy on Thu, 02 September 2010 08:56

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