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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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In 1996 I ran a telesales company ad had the unfortunate task of hiring and firing staff very frequently. I got good at hiring and had fewer firings as time passed, but I inherited a load of dead wood that needed to be cleared out.
One new graduate was in the wrong job. My idiot predecessor had hired him because he was nice, not because he was appropriate. And he was extremely nice. He was just not at all suited to the high pressure low paid environment we had, and there was absolutely no career path. It fell to me to tell him that we had to part company.
Obviously he was upset. Not so obviously, so was I. After he left we were more productive because we had fewer staff. And I had an email form him two days ago where he reminded me that I'd fired him and said that I was right, that he had been on the wrong track, and that, while it hurt at the time he laughs about it now. I think that means it still hurts a bit. These things do.
Today he has a good job with a decent employer, and he said we have another piece of life in common. Six months after I fired him he came out as gay. !997 was not that easy to be gay in the UK, though it wasn't too hard either. And he was in a decent industry to be gay - air travel!
We've exchanged emails since.
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