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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I went to a school reunion today. It was a lunch in a pub in Dorset, and I met people I'd never met before. Shocked one of them by telling him I'm gay. Another one shocked me.
He is on the Aspergers Spectrum. He functions well, lives alone, has a job that he does well, and is a numbers geek with a prodigious memory. He rather monopolised me, but that was fine. At the reunion was a staff member who remembered him. He's 48 now, and he was only diagnosed 10 years ago. Aspergers Man said to me "He remembered me. He also said he remembered I was bullied a lot."
I found that disgraceful. A teacher knew a boy was being badly bullied and did not one single thing to prevent it or to at least comfort the child being bullied at the time. I see that teacher to be complicit in the bullying by his inaction. If I'd been party to the conversation I would have mentioned this to the ex teacher concerned.
The then headmaster was incompetent to create an anti-bullying regime. But a decent, competent, humane teacher would surely, surely have prevented bullying? Surely?
Time have indeed changed.
I wonder what that fine and upstanding teacher would do in the same situation today?
Aspergers Man was deeply affected by his childhood, and the perpetual bullying hurt him. On his behalf I feel angry with that school. The sole thing that makes me choose not to name and shame it is that I believe it has improved sufficiently.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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