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Sex: When is it sex, when is it abuse?  [message #68540] Tue, 15 July 2014 20:55 Go to previous message
timmy

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I am having a discussion with a new friend about sexual abuse. He and I have views which intersect, but which are not congruent.

Let me pose some questions, none of which are intended to limit the discussion.
  • Is sex between an adult and a child (by whatever definition you choose) abuse?
  • Is sexual abuse always physical?
  • Does harm have to be done (physical, emotional) for it to be sexually abusive?
  • If it was by mutual consent at the time but is deeply regretted by one party later, is that sexual abuse?
  • If the act was not mutually enjoyable start to finish, is that sexual abuse?
  • Does the age of consent define what is and is not sexual abuse?

I can go on with the questions for ages. They are to provide a partial foundation for discussion. The way I have phrased the questions is arbitrary and does not represent a held viewpoint. They are just questions. There are other questions. Ask them and answer them freely.





Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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