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Fri, 14 August 2015 10:58

hillage

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Location: USA
Registered: July 2015
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Hi guys. I come seeking some advice today.

A friend of mine (yes, actually a friend) was sexually abused as a kid. I don't know much of the details besides that it was a close friend of his at the time. He went to counseling at a later time for his anger problems, and I assume spoke about the abuse then, but his parents and nearly all friends are unaware. Lately he has been having rough times, nightmares, etc. He has turned to drinking more often to help him deal with it.

He is currently trying to see a therapist, however (he has told me) they have not called him back for any more info, and he is very reluctant to talk to anybody else.

Any advice on how I can help him, or anything to say if it gets brought up in conversation?

- some notes: this friend of mine is very straight, however he has mentioned he would question his sexual identity if the abuse never happened. Also: he recently told his grandmother, and she was crying while discussing the subject with him. This had a bit of an effect on him, and he blames himself for making her cry, etc, and has been drinking more lately because of this.

Any advice here would be much appreciated. I want to help him in whatever way possible.

[Updated on: Fri, 14 August 2015 10:59]

		Help: friend abused as a kid By: hillage on Fri, 14 August 2015 10:58
		Re: Help: friend abused as a kid By: Kitzyma on Fri, 14 August 2015 12:33
		Re: Help: friend abused as a kid By: timmy on Fri, 14 August 2015 13:22
		Re: Help: friend abused as a kid By: Mark on Fri, 14 August 2015 18:51
		Re: Help: friend abused as a kid By: timmy on Fri, 14 August 2015 22:09
		Re: Help: friend abused as a kid By: Ray on Sat, 15 August 2015 01:01
		Re: Help: friend abused as a kid By: hillage on Sun, 16 August 2015 06:36

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