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Writing as a Catharsis  [message #75513] Sun, 10 February 2019 08:20 Go to previous message
timmy

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In another thread we have had this interchange:

"Teddy wrote on Sun, 10 February 2019 01:14"

"timmy wrote on Sat, 09 February 2019 10:17"

Those among you who are curious can have a look inside both the paperback and the Kindle on Amazon to see what on earth I am so proud of. I would like to remind you that writing it was an excellent catharsis. It helped me place my depression/obsession behind me

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I wish there was a "like button" on this forum, cuz I really like this. I've found writing to be a most wonderful catharsis. 

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This is, of course, that new thread.

I have known for a very long time about troubles shared being troubles halved. I've also never quite believed it. Sharing a trouble doesn't halve it for me, but it does dilute it. Share it often enough with enough people and it becomes much diminished. We start to be able to set it into perspective.

Way, way back, in the land of long, long ago, I started writing out my troubles and sharing them. You all know I am a gay man living a heterosexual life with a lady I adore. The first time I posted this on a forum I was berated. I was 'not really gay', apparently. He stamped on me. He learned. I stuck to my guns. I know what I am.

That led, over time to this forum where it is genuinely safe to post because I do not tolerate people who stamp on others. I try not to tolerate them by expressing displeasure at their behaviour, not an ad hominem criticism. I Knew that others would gain some solace from writing things down, just as I knew that even more people, the silent ones, would gain some solace from reading without writing, though I wish for them that they would write.

Over time I realised that writing stories also helped. By choice I can not fulfil my dearest wishes physically, but I can write them out. And those that are worth publishing I can publish. I found it was true, that reading what others write acts as a comfort, too. Their acting out in words of their fantasies often chimes with what I hoped, once, to do personally. I also see, on this forum when others are in pain. I like reading the help we bring.. Sometimes they respond, other times not.

I wrote Queer Me! some time ago, which helped a lot. Publishing it properly, assuming self publishing is proper, helped some more

A while ago, online, I met a chap who runs a business of therapy. He was calling for guest writers. His call coincided with my anger. I was angry about a real life something. I wrote it out. It was a scream of consciousness. Not stream. Scream. I have written a few pieces for him since then. If they interest you start at  the end, at the bottom, and work your way up. This is page 2. There may be a page 3 by the time you read this post.

Writing helps. Sharing what we write helps more.

[Updated on: Sun, 10 February 2019 08:21]




Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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