I expect simple behaviours here. Friendship, and love. Any advice should be from the perspective of the person asking, not the person giving! We have had to make new membership moderated to combat the huge number of spammers who register
Have you read the stories of the excellent australain author Gary Conder?
They are published on the Castle Roland website at this address: https://castleroland.net/author-stories/?auth_id=120
As he himself writes :« Gary's stories are all about what life in Australia was like for a homosexual man (mostly, before we used the term, "gay"). »
Just in case anyone needs the terminology, or finds themselves in discussions where confusion about the subject requires clarification -- or "nightmare of nightmares" you end up in a debate with the likes of Ted Cruz or Josh Hawly on the subject -- some definition may be in order, as made manifest in the Senate hearing last week for Justice Jackson.
This is not to infer most forum readers don't understand the subjects, but to provide clarity because as part of the CultureWars in the US and many authoritarian countries, the two terms are conflated for political and partisan purposes. You know, authoritatians are always looking for a group on the margins that they can demonize!
So, the basic definitions:
Sex refers to "the different biological and physiological characteristics of males and females, such as reproductive organs, chromosomes, hormones, etc."
Gender refers to "the socially constructed characteristics of women and men such as norms, roles and relationships of and between groups of women and men. It varies from society to society and can be changed. The concept of gender includes five important elements: relational, hierarchical, historical, contextual and institutional. While most people are born either male or female, they are taught appropriate norms and behaviours including how they should interact with others of the same or opposite sex within households, communities and work places. When individuals or groups do not "fit" established gender norms they often face stigma, discriminatory practices or social exclusion all of which adversely affect health."
And if you get into a discussion with someone on the right wing or red neck side of the subject, here's a great video to share... and worth watching too, for the dry humor!
This song is beautiful is so many ways. I'm doing a paper on mental health for my English class and this song is one of my sources. I read in one article on the song that the national suicide hotline reached its second highest calling the day after this song was released and I just think that is so amazing. Its touching to see that one song reached and connected to a lot of people and helped save many lives! Thank you Logic for bringing me to tears and really striving to spread awareness.
Location: UK, in Devon
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At the request of the original poster, and after some considerable thought, plus sleeping on the request, I have deleted this thread. I have concluded that it served a different purpose from the original intent, and caused the OP some personal concerns. On the simple basis that the foum is for the greater good and that this post and thread acheived less than that, it has gone.
I anticipate that I may be accused of censorship, I suppose it is. In response to that though, the OP might have blanked his own posts, leaving the responses to be both interesting and irrelevant at the same time.
Location: Europe
Registered: July 2019
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Shortly after 335 B.C., within a newly built library tucked just east of Athens' limestone city walls, a free-thinking Greek polymath by the name of Aristotle gathered up an armful of old theater scripts. As he pored over their delicate papyrus in the amber flicker of a sesame lamp, he was struck by a revolutionary idea: What if literature was an invention for making us happier and healthier? The idea made intuitive sense; when people felt bored, or unhappy, or at a loss for meaning, they frequently turned to plays or poetry. And afterwards, they often reported feeling better. But what could be the secret to literature's feel-better power? What hidden nuts-and-bolts conveyed its psychological benefits?
Location: Worcester, England
Registered: January 2005
Messages: 1546
My formerly-niece P. rang me last night for a long talk. They've decided to come out as a non-binary person, and I'm the first member of the family they've told. It didn't come as much of a surprise to me: it's something that I've had the impression was on their mind for the past three years or more. They're now in their early 20s, and no longer living at home though still very close to their Dad (my brother).
Obviously, I have no problems with this identity, and hope that I managed to convey that my love and support remain unchanged. I did run through some of the things that I think there might be in common with coming out as gay, especially allowing friends and family time to adjust to the inevitable shock, and not being massively thrown if they take a while to get comfortable with it all. And, of course, said I'm available on the phone at any hour of day or night if P. needs me, and if they need to escape pressure for a couple of days at any point they're always welcome to stay here.
I'm pretty sure that P.'s Dad will be OK with it, though it may take a while for his emotions to catch up with his very liberal intellectual ethics. A bit less sure about P.'s Mum. I expect my sister and her offspring will also be supportive (though surprises can happen). But I am rather worried about how my own mother, P.'s grandmother, will take it. She'll be 90 next year, and although mentally mostly still there, is effectively housebound, reliant on carers, and hasn't altogether kept up with social changes for three or four years. She's also always been rather free in expressing her opinions on what she thinks family members should do with their lives (to other family members, not generally to the person themself) though most of us mostly tune this out. I'd really welcome any suggestions on how I might reassure my Mum when P. finally does come out as non-binary to the wider family - as the only out gay family member, I think I'm going to be the one that Mum leans on for this.
any suggestions or helpful comments gratefully received
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
We men have known about rape for a long time, and have resources here for those affected. Our needs for support have commonality with thsoe for ladies, but with huge differences. We can't get pregnant, nor do we have to fight for an abortion in unenloghtened places like ladies impregnated by a rapist do. But we can feel 'unmanned' by it, emasculated.
Location: Worcester, England
Registered: January 2005
Messages: 1546
World AIDS Day was introduced in 1988, thirty years ago. We've seen massive changes in that time! Indeed, many consultants here in the UK don't use the term "AIDS" any longer, but refer to stages of HIV infection.
Things to be grateful for:
HIV infection is not curable, but with proper treatment there's no reason for it to restrict or shorten anyone's lifespan.
With effective antiretroviral treatment it's possible the level of virus in someone's body will go so low it becomes 'undetectable'. If this is confirmed by their healthcare professional it means they can no longer pass on HIV through sex. Straight couples can safely try to have kids, for example.
Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) - taking medication routinely before having sex - almost completely prevents the possibility of catching the virus. In the UK, the NHS is dragging its feet over making this available, but organisations exist to help people safely buy decent product over the internet.
Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP) - if a condom bursts, or someone has had impulse unsafe sex, PEP within 36 hours of possible exposure massively reduces the chances of catching the virus.
Given all of these, especially PrEP, the rate of new HIV infections in the UK is falling (in London, falling very steeply). Sadly, the situation in many other countries is not as good, though it's in general improving.
On the down side, I remember far too many lovely guys - friends, colleagues, schoolmates, and a lover - who died from the disease before we had our current understanding and drug arsenal. I seek to honour them in the best way that I can, and one way in which I can do that is to minimise my own risk of catching HIV, or passing it on if I should happen to do so. For anyone sexually active (with the possible exception of long-term monogamous relationships with a very trusted partner), that means regular testing, so you know your status and can seek treatment if needed. My last partner was HIV+, and as well as regular testing while with him, I had (negative) tests six, twelve, and eighteen months after we split up. I haven't had sex since him, so no current need for tests!
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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This time it's about buttocks. I've noticed it for a long time while studying, alwasy on your behaf, porn, especially on Tumblr, a place where I keep gettin blogs nuked by the Tumblr Fairy.
In my innocence (look, I was innocent once!) I expected the buttocks to be a simple dividing zone between the port and the starboard legs. Imagine my surprise and pleasure when I noted a special divide, almost an elliptical aperture, to allow the anus to perform both its alloted functions!
I love the idea that a piece of (ha!) intelligent design grants access to pleasures untold except in non missionary position fiction!
I also love the way that access, once gained, proves that the penis fits the anus far better than it fits the vagina. "Like a glove" is the expression I was thinking of, but a penis divided into five is not really a thing. There are folk with twin penises, not not five. Google is your friend here. Search for Man with multipe penises and you come up with just two. Well, he does!
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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McAfee has the main site on its database. This morning, UK time, it was Pornography and unverified for potential harm. I doscovered this when someone told me why they were unable to follow a link to the site.
I asked McAfee to change it and we are now displayed thus:
I thought to compare us with Nifty:
I think the reputation column is probably the important one
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13628
I read this article following by this one today. I also am the proud owner of a small collection of dildos and vibtarors. And the thing that pisses me off is the fact that these toys are represented by the mainstream media as toys for women.
I own a prostate, and I get it checked out every so often to ensure it is healthy, because I want to keep it. And I love stimulating it with toys. As a young teenager I even invented my own electro-stim system from a toy morse code set and worked out how to use that anally. In short, the prostate is a glorious piece of male sexual anatomy.
Not for the mainstream media, though. Penetration is only for the girls in the maintstream media!
Caning women shows a certain kind of dominant mentality. It doesn't matter what their sexuality might be. What matters is that women are generally idolised by society, and making them suffer is part of the wonderful(!) dreams of porn sites. I'm not expressing this very well. Perhaps you might try to do better.
I see this in its own way as BDSM rape, backed by the full panoply of religion and some sort of stance with the law.
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Location: UK, in Devon
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Today one of the boys I was infatuated with is 62! I still think of him fondly, though were were truly nothing to each other. He is the boy I was outed over in school. Though not flattered by the photographs he was gorgeous. He was also a huge flirt. He knew he was attractive, and knew I found him attractive. If I'd known him I might have come to love him rather than just finding him a hugely erotic and unattainable object of great desire.
Anniversaries such as this get me wondering about what might have been, yet I know they would never have been.
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