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Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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~aqua~
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Yo!
What's up everyone? Not a whole lot for here. I'm just talking to various people as well as writing myself a journal entry and saving it on my comp. It's just a thing i do. I started getting tears in my eyes tonight, I've sorta seem to be down quite a lot lately. I really don't know why. I guess I'm just a downer. lol.
People can be really mean at times. Like, sometimes their your friend, sometimes their your enemy. But I guess that's what makes life interesting. With all the shitty wars in this day and age over the honestly trival what-have-you's of daily society, it's probably just another way to amuse ourselves. I truly wonder if we'll ever be able to accept people for who they are. Maybe, it isn't even a matter of acceptance. It's about other's insecurities. And whatever they are, I hope people can be man or woman enough to get over them.
With all the thick-headedness people have these days, it's amazing how we all seem to get along with eachother. Friends are friends forever, and those who aren't, aren't for a time. If someone chooses to be a friend, then that's fine, let them. If not, then that's okay too. We don't have to like eachother, but we can if we want to, and perhaps then, we'd all seem to somehow get along with eachother.
I wonder why we have the hate crimes, and the gay jokes and the crash and burns in this day and age anyway. Did someone somewhere someday decide within the quality of their spare time, develop ways to make himself feel good by humiliating others? I'd sure like to meet the fool who did.
Life isn't all about the ups and downs, or the stuff in between. It's all about learning from past mistakes and growing from them, and being a better person. We grow everyday, so why not be the better man or woman instead of hurting someone else. People won't take you seriously if all you do is pretend to be someone you're not. Just be yourself, that's all you can be. You can't be your favourite Pop star or rapper or poet writer. All you can be is you.
And those are my thoughts for now.
~Josh~
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Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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Josh, I wish more people in the world thought as you do. If they did, the world would be a much nicer place. This should be placed in every school where people could read it. Perhaps there would not be so much violence and bigotry in the world then.
your friend
~aqua~
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Yes, Aqualino,
If only . ....
But life isn't like that. I thought I had many friends at school, but there are none left now (you may think it isn't surprising since I'm 73). But gradually the people you used to know develop interests that you don't have (or don't want to have) and the extent you can share this gets less. Then you make an effort and try to get in touch again and it doesn't work. They are jealous of your success or you are jealous of theirs. You take an instant dislike to thier partners or children or vice versa.
On the other hand I have many friends from university days (maybe as many as two dozen). I put it down to several things. By then my opinions about the world had stabilised and the people that agreed with me then largely still do agree with me. Incidentally they all know and accept my sexuality and I'm the only gay one. Second we have never fallen quite out of touch - for 30 or 35 years one couple organised an annual garden party to which most were invited. Third our children often got to know and like each other. As a group we are unusual; one of the Dons (Professor of Ancient History - now alas dead) said that in all his career he had never come across such a group. I am privileged to be part of it.
So make friends that agree with your philosophy and keep in touch with them even while they are in other continents. You will be grateful for it when you get old. Indeed we have two of them coming to stay on Sunday - they live five hours drive away!
Love,
Anthony
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Hey Aqua and Anthony.
Thanks for replying. It would really take a miracle to turn the world around into a place where everyone accepts everyone. Hate only brings more hate, as love brings more love. Everyone can bring either one to the table. People you've met, people you talk to, people you see everyday are all like a family, so in that sense, we're all thinking the same things. We may hate eachother, love eachother, like eachother but we still remember those we've met. Wanting to forget someone, wanting someone to forget you, isn't as simple as just asking. If you truly wish to forget all the memories you shared, then that is very sad.
People change over time, as does the world. But we're all the same people. Our views may change, our likes and dislikes, but we're still the same as we were so very long ago.
Being different isn't such a bad thing. The whole war between what is wrong and right, has really been stretched too far. People are simple creatures really, like children in a way, wanting to know everything. Heh. It's cute.
But regardless, if you're going to hate someone, because of their sexuality or what have you, which in my mind is so ignorant, then that's very sad. People are living decent lives, regardless of who they love. So we as humans have no right to tell them what's right or wrong. And I think it's wrong that we've taught our children to hate people for their skin colour or sexuality. That's wrong and hurtful.
Just something to think about I guess.
~Josh~
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Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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Josh, these are very beautiful thoughts that you have. As I said before, if only the rest of the world thought this way, it would be a much better place.
I am lucky to have such a compassionate friend as you. For that, I am sincerely greatful.
~aqua~
your friend
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Thanks Aqua. I'm glad you're my friend too.
~Josh~
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Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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Dear Josh,
Yes teaching people to hate is profoundly wrong; yet it goes on and if there were a way of stopping it someone would have found it by now.
The only thing I think I can do is to help bring up children to be nice to other people and to set a good example by being nice to other people myself.
And if people see that people like that are happier than the haters they may choose to join in and be nice to others as well.
Have you a better answer?
Love,
Anthony
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Hey Anthony.
I agree with your answer. Being nice to others is a lot better then hating others, thats for sure.
~Josh~
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Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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I think a lot of it is because we teach kids to compare themselves with others: better/worse in class, richer/poorer, better/worse at sport, gay/bi/straight(normal), winner/looser ...
It isn't always easy to be nice if you're in constant competition with everyone over everything.
Far better to concentrate on encouraging kids to be the best "them" that they can be, accepting that they will be better at some things and worse at others than other kids, and it really doesn't matter. As soon as a persons self-esteem gets based - even in part - on comparison with other people, there's a risk they will put others down to make themselves look good by comparison.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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Love isnt sugar-coated with butterflies and rainbows and such.
Passion isnt a blaze of fire melted in the minds of lovers.
Feelings arent simplicities wrapped up in chocolate candies.
Mellowdrama doesn't just come from apple trees and gumdrops.
Such praise and paradise exists only in the mind.
Reality doesn't come from an artist or a writer.
It comes from the passionate inspirers of the today's and yesterdays.
Think of life what you will, it will still be there tomorrow to wake with you as you greet the morning dawn.
~Josh~
Sadly we each live in a world where we live day to day comparing ourselves with the 'beautiful' and rich. We forget that we ourselves are beautiful. Live isn't about the downs and ups, but about what we do in between to make ourselves better people. We shouldn't be comparing, or live in a world where we compare everything to someone elses standards. Sadly though, that is the reality of the world we live in.
We each are good at different things, and it's our uniqueness that brings each of us together.
~Josh~
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Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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Dear Mike,
That's interesting. I don't think I ever try to compare my (degree of) happiness with other people's. Does everybody else?
I have a friend called Tim who says it doesn't matter because in the end all anyone knows is how they feel inside and in the end their best times will even out with their worst times.
Some people go round with a smile on their faces. Some people have a 'happy' disposition. Are they actually happier than the rest of us?
How could one ever tell? What's inside your head is completely inaccessible to me: you can tell me about it but there isn't a way to compare your agony and ecstasy with my agony and ecstasy.
So I think Montesquieu was wrong. He is just of a jealous disposition!
Love,
Anthony
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Dear Mike,
So that's what I'm doing wrong!
Love
Anthony
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